Quality vs Quantity
What is your own "line in the sand?"
What are you willing to endure to live before you die?
These are vitally important questions that are maybe hard to face but they need to be looked at and discussed and answered because in an emergency, your loved ones might have to make these decisions for you and that can be brutal for them in the chaos of the emergency.
Watch this video Facing Death - A Frontline documentary.
There have been so many advances in life saving techniques - and many people will benefit from them. But at some point, you need to ask, is this life we are saving even aware we are saving it? Is there more suffering then living happening?
Take the time to have these discussions now before a chaotic emergency happens to force you to rush through them.
Be as detailed and exacting as you want to be. Get into the nitty gritty of what you do and don't want to happen when you cannot answer the questions for yourself. This can be overwhelming even when healthy so if you need help deciphering all the minutiae I can help you navigate your way.
One Last Trip
This is a beautiful story in the LA Times today - about Gabriella Walsh and her decision to use Medical Aid in Dying after finding massive tumors from breast cancer. Her life, her choice and on her own terms.
One Last Trip - Read Here
Soar Eternally Free
I realized I hadn't shared where I got Soar Eternally Free from. So, story time!
I was trying to think of a name for myself and my EOL business - it seemed all the logical and good names where taken already. I just sat tossing names out and free associating for over an hour before I hit on Crow - crow - fly - crows soar....
Dumb... D'oh ... Christina *homer simpsons do'h*
It took me way to long to figure this no brainer out and it made me laugh.
When my brother died in 1997, we were at the funeral home getting things set up and it came to deciding what to put on the urn for his ashes. The usual, "RIP," or "forever in our hearts," did not fit my brother at all. I asked if it could wait for the moment and left it at that.
Moments after he was cremated we all stepped outside for fresh air and I looked up over the crematory stack and saw several jets pluming as they flew by. From my angle it looked like they flew right through the smoke and I said something like, "Houston we have lift off," to sort of break the horrible grief and sobbing tears. We all laughed but the image of Tommy, Soaring Eternally Free stayed with me.
I used it in my memorial speech for him and I also asked the funeral home to put that on his Urn.
Now I use it whenever I express my condolences to someone who has had a loved one die. It is also how I see myself during my last breath on Earth. Paused on a high cliff, in the desert at sunset, waiting to Soar.
So that is the story and it is why I am here. We may not want to talk about our last moments or last breaths but I think it is best to talk, to plan, to be ready ... to soar.
National Death Doula Day 4/20/22
I cannot think of a better day to have completed the first part of my training and trying to come up with a succinct "elevator pitch," to share what I do with people.
Death isn't a medical event.
Most people want to die at home and instead, end up in a hospital.
Waiting to plan for a medical emergency in a medical emergency is never a good idea.
Take the control now and plan the way you want things to be - don't leave it up to family who may be too distraught and confused to think clearly.
That is one of the reasons I am here. I can help.
When is this day celebrated? April 20
What is Death Doula Day? The day is set aside for Death Doulas to engage their communities bringing awareness to the profession and benefits for patients and families. An End of Life Doula is a non-medical person trained to care for someone holistically (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) at the end of life.
This day is created to raise awareness about the profession of Death Doulas and how they can benefit patients and families at end of life. Death Doulas provide the additional support that families need in order to feel comfortable with taking care of their dying loved one at home. They are non-medical professionals that provide holistic support for the dying and their loved ones before, during, and after death. Trained in the various end of life stages, a Doula is able to assist the family with understanding the natural processes while providing comfort and support. This is the day where all Death Doulas can rise together and be a voice for social change at end of life, ensuring everyone has he most positive passing possible.
How should this day be celebrated or observed? On Death Doula Day we encourage the conversation about the profession of Death Doulas. This can be done anywhere in anyway. Have fun with it! Post/tweet/market/share, have a discussion panel, show a documentary, give a training, host a Death Café – Anything to do with end of life.
What we do in life echoes in eternity
Soar Eternally Free/Christina Stone
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